Serving others starts with self care because you can’t pour out of an empty pitcher.

I love Rachel Hollis who speaks about how society can view mothers for example. She says, “You rarely hear people cheer on mother’s who run a marathon saying ‘good on ya girl, what a great mum’!”

In my view, I’m a huge fan of self care, as long as the self care activity isn’t completely taking over and there isn’t any neglect, then running a marathon could most definitely help the mother be the best mum she could be! A healthy, endorphin filled, energised, happy mum who is also demonstrating what it takes to run such a distance. The training, perseverance, dedication, commitment and may even inspire their child to do the same one day, or something with the same dedication and character building qualities.

One thing I see a lot when coaching my clients, is that many would like to do a few things for themselves, like go to the gym, have a massage, take an art class or even a night off to hang out with their girlfriends. But they feel guilty and worry too much about what everyone else will think of them.

Meanwhile they stay going full out doing everything for everyone else and worst cases I see, they fall victim to complete burn out. And when that happens, unfortunately, they are very suddenly in no state to help anyone and are then forced to help and look after themselves, for a change.

I support everyone taking time in their week to do what’s important to you, what fills you up, gives you some ‘me time’ and time to take care of yourself. So that, your needs are not put last and ultimately, you prevent burnout or worse frustration that you’re never getting what you really want.

Being so frustrated, doesn’t help you light others up when you’re with them either.

If you need help designing your life to include self care and learning how to communicate this to the people in your life, that not only leaves you feeling good, but also with them respecting and supporting your self care regime, check out my options below.

Until then, enjoy implementing some self care into your routine today!

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Jacqueline Pigdon BSc, The LOVE MONDAYS Expert, is an Australian rowing champion, Wealth Dynamics, Talent Dynamics and Health Dynamics Performance Consultant, a spiritual life, career and business coach, speaker, author and award-winning entrepreneur!

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People feel stuck when they have set goals for themselves but don’t feel as though they are making any progress towards them. 

Sound familiar? I have conversations with clients when they’re feeling stuck and here is how I help them get into flow instead!

Firstly, the feeling of being ‘stuck’. OMG Urgh! Worst! I’m sure you’ve felt it at different times in your life, I most certainly have and it’s terrible!

To me the feeling of being stuck has energy like dead water! Have you ever tried to row through or get anywhere in dead water? No? Well I have and it’s not fun. The water is definitely not going anywhere even with you in it and it only collects rubbish.

The good news? Getting unstuck can happen a lot faster than you think. As soon as you do one thing, it can be tiny, that moves you towards your goal WOW you feel completely different. It’s quite amazing and that’s why I always like to do something that is moving towards my top 3 goals so they are constantly in flow and I feel like I’m movin’ and groovin’.

You can either make a commitment with yourself and jump in and do what you know you have to do, (and probably should have been doing for a long time, like me right now.. I’m a writer and haven’t written to people outside of my current client group for too long… so hello again here I am!)

Or there is something you need to do before you can move.

When feeling stuck, you can come up with lots of reasons why you can’t move and often blame other people or situations that are outside of your control.  Sound familiar?

Why do people do this? Because there is an underlying fear or belief associated with keeping them from moving and they make up reasons why they can’t make it happen and can’t move forwards. Putting the blame outside of themselves, means they are a victim, powerless to change and therefore stay stuck and ultimately don’t have to do anything except continue complaining.

The reasons and excuses people come up with, frustrate the hell out of them e.g. my husband never does what I want him to do or if only my boss gave me a raise all my money problems would disappear.  

Ultimately, they are just frustrated with themselves that they are not getting what they want.

I’m yet to see a client fail to get unstuck from moving through the following process:

Question to ask yourself when feeling stuck: ‘What are you afraid of happening if you got what you wanted?’ If you honestly answer this question, many interesting answers will surface.

For example, one client of mine really wanted to have a baby but wasn’t taking any of the actions to make it happen and blamed her husband! What did she fear? Living on only her husband’s income which she wanted to avoid at all costs.

Another client of mine wanted to move his family back to his hometown by the beach but wasn’t taking any of the actions on his list to make it happen and blamed his wife. What did he fear? That if they moved there his wife might not get a job and then that will be all his fault. They would be on only his salary which was lower than hers and he didn’t think he could handle that – especially with her spending habits!

What can you do once you’re honest with your truth? Stop making up excuses and…

Own it and communicate it. Open up, be brave and vulnerable and share the fear with your partner or the other person. They might be afraid of the same thing or something else, or not worried about it at all. From doing this you have the opportunity of getting closer, more connected and you can discuss what you would do if the thing you fear did happen. Is it a deal breaker or could you handle it together?

Or if it’s a limiting belief that’s keeping you stuck, check in to see if it’s a fact.

Example excuse: “I can’t make the basketball team because I’m only 6 foot 2.”

Challenging question: Has there ever been a basketball player in the NBA who was an amazing player and only 6 foot 2?

“Yes.”

Well there you go, it’s ‘possible’ and now you can use that player as inspiration and stop using height as an excuse of why you can’t do it. Most of the time people will immediately come up with several more reasons… until they exhaust themselves, give up and give in, and finally take action.  

If you currently feel stuck and would like to have a chat with me to help you understand what’s really keeping you stuck, and instead get you moving, give me a call today to get started.

Until then, happy progressing

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Jacqueline Pigdon BSc, The LOVE MONDAYS Expert, is an Australian rowing champion, Wealth Dynamics, Talent Dynamics and Health Dynamics Performance Consultant, a spiritual life, career and business coach, speaker, author and award-winning entrepreneur!

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Emma Isaac’s book ‘Winging It’ is fabulous! I absolutely love it. I bought it to listen on Audible during my morning row. I’ve been to a few Business Chicks events of hers, including the one with Kate Hudson in Melbourne, but never reached for Emma’s book until now. It’s so good I’m listening to it for a second time.

What do I love about it?

As a very successful business woman and mother of 5, Emma shares what has worked for her and openly what hasn’t. She inspires you with her stories and challenges you to think about how the game you’re currently playing in your business might be worthy of a bigger court.

I love thinking about business as a game to play. It helps me to stop taking things too seriously (especially when things aren’t going to plan! Like when you hit the goal post instead of kicking the winning goal!) and I stop and think strategically instead.

I draw on my sporting experience and think about all the components in rowing we had to get right to win. We needed the training program, the right equipment, coach, kit, crew members, mindset, teamwork, fitness, diet, technique, determination, dedication, perseverance, a race plan, big goals and drive and ultimately, we needed to believe in ourselves that we could do it.

We had to work on all of these things, and just like the title of Emma’s book, sometimes we just had to ‘wing it’ and hope for the best.

In business there are so many moving parts too. There are your customers, products and services, marketing, employees, team members, social impact, technology, accounts, finance, cashflow, pricing, returns, competitors, even bad weather and the list goes on!

If you’re competitive like I am and love to play to win (I go for PB’s these days) try this out by thinking about your business as though it was your favourite sport.

Decide which court or field you want to play on, make sure you know the rules (of today by the way if you’ve been in business a long time), take your position (which could be a new one depending on your strengths) and give it your best shot! As if the world was watching you play, which quite frankly, it pretty much already is, but that’s a story for another day.

Until then, grab yourself a copy of Emma Isaac’s book Wing It to be inspired.

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Jacqueline Pigdon BSc, The LOVE MONDAYS Expert, is an Australian rowing champion, Wealth Dynamics, Talent Dynamics and Health Dynamics Performance Consultant, a spiritual life, career and business coach, speaker, author and award-winning entrepreneur!

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I look forward to hearing from you.

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One of the biggest questions I have for my clients when they are avoiding a conversation in fear of confrontation and therefore conflict is:

‘Why does it have to be a difficult conversation?’

If your think it will be hard chances are it will be. Because what we put out there is what we get back.

Thinking it has to be ‘hard‘ is only a thought or a deeply ingrained belief. Maybe you’ve had many of these conversations and they’ve always turned out badly.

But do they always have to be like that in the future or even right now, today?

No they don’t.

Not if you know how.

Everything is easy when you know how. Maybe you just haven’t found the strategy yet that works for you.

And how do you know you’ve overcome difficult conversations and that it has worked for you?

You’re left feeling peaceful within. You’re happy about the conversation. You walk away feeling good about it.

Would you like to have a peaceful outcome? 

Let’s break down ‘Conflict Resolution’ to just Resolution i.e. resolving an issue.

What’s an issue? To me, I believe it is anything that’s on your mind. As small or silly you might think something is and that it really ‘shouldn’t’ be bothering you, if it is… It’s something that is unresolved, something that disturbs your peace.

And until you ‘resolve’ that thing, it’s only going to hold you back from achieving bigger things in your life, reaching your goals and your potential.

An issue that needs to be resolved, something on your mind, may come and go and you might try and push it aside but it randomly or sometimes aggressively reappears.

What can you do about this?

Change your perception on it. 

See it as an opportunity to resolve it, to grow and learn. For if we don’t address and resolve things when they are a seed. Guess what happens? The issue just grows. It can grow into a giant oak tree and if and when that happens it means we can’t ignore it any longer and it takes much more work and strength to chop it down.

So start early, get onto it, don’t be afraid of sorting out a tiny issue.

HERE’S HOW

Step 1 – INTENTION

I believe our intention is huge and very powerful – what is your intention going into the conversation? I.e. what do you ultimately want to achieve?

My advice for a good intention is to have the goal of coming out of the conversation feeling good about the conversation, that your issue has been resolved and you also left the other person feeling good about it too.

Now this is quite an art and can take a bit of practice but it’s completely possible.

What I find is that if you have an issue about a particular thing with someone else, they often have an issue about it too.

So actually addressing it and resolving it, can take a load off their mind too. 

Confronting – no, you’re actually doing them and yourself a favour!

So don’t be afraid. 

Of course if you don’t have a strategy or an idea on how to do this, you will be afraid.

Step 2 – ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR PART

In any conflict resolution, I find that 9 times out of 10 each person has done or said something of value. A good point. But at the same time each person could have also done something differently or better.

So when having a conversation it’s essential that you acknowledge what the person has done right. 

Why? You’re thinking what??? But what about all the things or THE thing they did absolutely badly or how they hurt me or did wrong by me!?!?!

The reason why you acknowledge a true point they have made (and that might be an attack, even criticism of you, if it’s actually true, own it) is because then they will feel heard. i.e. They will see you were listening to them.

And when a person feels heard, they relax and calm down and are more likely to be open to listening to you. 

Step 3 – CALM CONVO’S

Keep your eye on your intention, even if the conversation is going off path and you feel like it’s getting out of control. Remember the goal!

Once they’ve calmed down and you’ve remained calm and after you’ve acknowledged what you could have done differently, be assertive and deliver your point respectfully.

When you own your own actions, acknowledge a point they have made without making excuses for it, it gives the other person permission to do the same.

They come down from being defensive and/or aggressive and meet you at where you are.

MY INSPIRATION?

I was inspired to write about this today after seeing the above featured image. I know there are peaceful ways to both live and communicate in this world, and personally I like to operate this way 99% of the time, but I also know there is power and opportunity for growth, in our frustrations. The benefits can sometimes seem hidden within, but if we look for them, we so often find the answers to our biggest questions. 

This is just a high level quick snapshot on one strategy on how you can address issues by confronting them without conflict.

If you would like help on how to prepare for and confront a specific issue with someone in your life that is leaving you avoiding them or a conversation, or you’re having conversations with them that leave you feeling mad, upset, uneasy, powerless of change and/or really frustrated, then please feel free to get in touch with me and my team. 

I look forward to the opportunity to teach you how to have empowering conversations that not only resolve your issues but leave you and the other person feeling great! 

 Jacqueline Pigdon, is an Australian rowing champion, international spiritual life and business coach, Wealth and Talent Dynamics consultant, author, speaker and award winning entrepreneur!

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Now this can be a great thing, but it can also cause some issues..

Watch the video below where I outline the problem with instant gratification and how it is causing many people to feel unsatisfied…

Instant gratification doesn’t generally allow us to feel good about a really great job well done.

Can you think of something that has taken you a really long time to achieve?

Perhaps you’ve put hours and hours into it, maybe months or even years.

And then you finally made it!

How satisfied were you? How great did you feel, that you finally achieved your goal?

Even thinking about it now, how happy does it make you feel?

Plus – how much do you value it?

If we’re always trying to have instant gratification, getting things so fast, if things come too easily, we miss out on that amazing feeling after we have worked really hard and feel very proud of ourselves.

Today I want to encourage you, if you’re on a journey trying to achieve something, and it’s taking you a really long time, you know you’re on the right path, then stick at it. Keep going! You can do it!

When you do achieve it, you will feel that amazing feeling of completing a tough challenge in your life and complete satisfaction.

I would love to hear of a goal you are trying to achieve right now, that perhaps you’ve been working on already for a long time. I would love to help you with it!

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Thanks for watching and stay tuned for my next video tip from the beautiful location of Hamilton Island, Australia! 

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Jacqueline Pigdon, The LOVE MONDAYS Expert is an Australian rowing champion, a spiritual life & career coach, author and award winning entrepreneur! Beginning her career in corporate IT and as an elite sports person she knows firsthand how to achieve goals and make a successful and fulfilling career transition. Jacqueline has dedicated her life to helping other women all around the world do the same and create a career and life they love!

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