Serving others starts with self care because you can’t pour out of an empty pitcher.

I love Rachel Hollis who speaks about how society can view mothers for example. She says, “You rarely hear people cheer on mother’s who run a marathon saying ‘good on ya girl, what a great mum’!”

In my view, I’m a huge fan of self care, as long as the self care activity isn’t completely taking over and there isn’t any neglect, then running a marathon could most definitely help the mother be the best mum she could be! A healthy, endorphin filled, energised, happy mum who is also demonstrating what it takes to run such a distance. The training, perseverance, dedication, commitment and may even inspire their child to do the same one day, or something with the same dedication and character building qualities.

One thing I see a lot when coaching my clients, is that many would like to do a few things for themselves, like go to the gym, have a massage, take an art class or even a night off to hang out with their girlfriends. But they feel guilty and worry too much about what everyone else will think of them.

Meanwhile they stay going full out doing everything for everyone else and worst cases I see, they fall victim to complete burn out. And when that happens, unfortunately, they are very suddenly in no state to help anyone and are then forced to help and look after themselves, for a change.

I support everyone taking time in their week to do what’s important to you, what fills you up, gives you some ‘me time’ and time to take care of yourself. So that, your needs are not put last and ultimately, you prevent burnout or worse frustration that you’re never getting what you really want.

Being so frustrated, doesn’t help you light others up when you’re with them either.

If you need help designing your life to include self care and learning how to communicate this to the people in your life, that not only leaves you feeling good, but also with them respecting and supporting your self care regime, check out my options below.

Until then, enjoy implementing some self care into your routine today!

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Jacqueline Pigdon BSc, The LOVE MONDAYS Expert, is an Australian rowing champion, Wealth Dynamics, Talent Dynamics and Health Dynamics Performance Consultant, a spiritual life, career and business coach, speaker, author and award-winning entrepreneur!

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People feel stuck when they have set goals for themselves but don’t feel as though they are making any progress towards them. 

Sound familiar? I have conversations with clients when they’re feeling stuck and here is how I help them get into flow instead!

Firstly, the feeling of being ‘stuck’. OMG Urgh! Worst! I’m sure you’ve felt it at different times in your life, I most certainly have and it’s terrible!

To me the feeling of being stuck has energy like dead water! Have you ever tried to row through or get anywhere in dead water? No? Well I have and it’s not fun. The water is definitely not going anywhere even with you in it and it only collects rubbish.

The good news? Getting unstuck can happen a lot faster than you think. As soon as you do one thing, it can be tiny, that moves you towards your goal WOW you feel completely different. It’s quite amazing and that’s why I always like to do something that is moving towards my top 3 goals so they are constantly in flow and I feel like I’m movin’ and groovin’.

You can either make a commitment with yourself and jump in and do what you know you have to do, (and probably should have been doing for a long time, like me right now.. I’m a writer and haven’t written to people outside of my current client group for too long… so hello again here I am!)

Or there is something you need to do before you can move.

When feeling stuck, you can come up with lots of reasons why you can’t move and often blame other people or situations that are outside of your control.  Sound familiar?

Why do people do this? Because there is an underlying fear or belief associated with keeping them from moving and they make up reasons why they can’t make it happen and can’t move forwards. Putting the blame outside of themselves, means they are a victim, powerless to change and therefore stay stuck and ultimately don’t have to do anything except continue complaining.

The reasons and excuses people come up with, frustrate the hell out of them e.g. my husband never does what I want him to do or if only my boss gave me a raise all my money problems would disappear.  

Ultimately, they are just frustrated with themselves that they are not getting what they want.

I’m yet to see a client fail to get unstuck from moving through the following process:

Question to ask yourself when feeling stuck: ‘What are you afraid of happening if you got what you wanted?’ If you honestly answer this question, many interesting answers will surface.

For example, one client of mine really wanted to have a baby but wasn’t taking any of the actions to make it happen and blamed her husband! What did she fear? Living on only her husband’s income which she wanted to avoid at all costs.

Another client of mine wanted to move his family back to his hometown by the beach but wasn’t taking any of the actions on his list to make it happen and blamed his wife. What did he fear? That if they moved there his wife might not get a job and then that will be all his fault. They would be on only his salary which was lower than hers and he didn’t think he could handle that – especially with her spending habits!

What can you do once you’re honest with your truth? Stop making up excuses and…

Own it and communicate it. Open up, be brave and vulnerable and share the fear with your partner or the other person. They might be afraid of the same thing or something else, or not worried about it at all. From doing this you have the opportunity of getting closer, more connected and you can discuss what you would do if the thing you fear did happen. Is it a deal breaker or could you handle it together?

Or if it’s a limiting belief that’s keeping you stuck, check in to see if it’s a fact.

Example excuse: “I can’t make the basketball team because I’m only 6 foot 2.”

Challenging question: Has there ever been a basketball player in the NBA who was an amazing player and only 6 foot 2?

“Yes.”

Well there you go, it’s ‘possible’ and now you can use that player as inspiration and stop using height as an excuse of why you can’t do it. Most of the time people will immediately come up with several more reasons… until they exhaust themselves, give up and give in, and finally take action.  

If you currently feel stuck and would like to have a chat with me to help you understand what’s really keeping you stuck, and instead get you moving, give me a call today to get started.

Until then, happy progressing

Live your best life!

Jacqueline Pigdon BSc, The LOVE MONDAYS Expert, is an Australian rowing champion, Wealth Dynamics, Talent Dynamics and Health Dynamics Performance Consultant, a spiritual life, career and business coach, speaker, author and award-winning entrepreneur!

M: +61 (0) 447728677

E: jacqueline@jinalife.com 

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Emma Isaac’s book ‘Winging It’ is fabulous! I absolutely love it. I bought it to listen on Audible during my morning row. I’ve been to a few Business Chicks events of hers, including the one with Kate Hudson in Melbourne, but never reached for Emma’s book until now. It’s so good I’m listening to it for a second time.

What do I love about it?

As a very successful business woman and mother of 5, Emma shares what has worked for her and openly what hasn’t. She inspires you with her stories and challenges you to think about how the game you’re currently playing in your business might be worthy of a bigger court.

I love thinking about business as a game to play. It helps me to stop taking things too seriously (especially when things aren’t going to plan! Like when you hit the goal post instead of kicking the winning goal!) and I stop and think strategically instead.

I draw on my sporting experience and think about all the components in rowing we had to get right to win. We needed the training program, the right equipment, coach, kit, crew members, mindset, teamwork, fitness, diet, technique, determination, dedication, perseverance, a race plan, big goals and drive and ultimately, we needed to believe in ourselves that we could do it.

We had to work on all of these things, and just like the title of Emma’s book, sometimes we just had to ‘wing it’ and hope for the best.

In business there are so many moving parts too. There are your customers, products and services, marketing, employees, team members, social impact, technology, accounts, finance, cashflow, pricing, returns, competitors, even bad weather and the list goes on!

If you’re competitive like I am and love to play to win (I go for PB’s these days) try this out by thinking about your business as though it was your favourite sport.

Decide which court or field you want to play on, make sure you know the rules (of today by the way if you’ve been in business a long time), take your position (which could be a new one depending on your strengths) and give it your best shot! As if the world was watching you play, which quite frankly, it pretty much already is, but that’s a story for another day.

Until then, grab yourself a copy of Emma Isaac’s book Wing It to be inspired.

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Jacqueline Pigdon BSc, The LOVE MONDAYS Expert, is an Australian rowing champion, Wealth Dynamics, Talent Dynamics and Health Dynamics Performance Consultant, a spiritual life, career and business coach, speaker, author and award-winning entrepreneur!

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E: jacqueline@jinalife.com 

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Since it’s Valentine’s Day there’s no better day of the year to talk about one of the top 6 human needs ‘Love & Connection’.

For those of you who are not familiar with Anthony Robin’s Top 6 Human Needs, here is a quick run down.

1. Certainty

Which means we all like a bit of certainty, that we’re going to be safe, secure, have food on the table, a roof over our head and maybe knowing that our family is there for us when we get home, or always on the other end of a phone call. 

Too much certainty can however, be boring. When we know exactly what is going to happen next, maybe your life feels a bit like Groundhog Day… and we don’t want to know what happens at the end of a movie, we would like to enjoy the journey of the unknown.

Which brings me to the next one…

2. Uncertainty

Where we like variety, the need for adventure, new experiences, change and new stimuli which can make things exciting! 

Too much uncertainty can make people feel unstable and fearful, not knowing where the next pay cheque is coming in, whereas, others love the challenge.

3. Significance

We all like to feel important and valued. A feeling of significance can be the feeling that you’re special, in your relationship, team at work, that you’re needed and things wouldn’t be the same or would fall over without you. 

Too much importance on significance however leave some people always wanting to be in the lime light, coming across as more important than others, arrogant or swamped with people around them, because no one else is quite as good as they are!

4. Love & Connection

A strong feeling of closeness or a union with someone or something. This is definitely a top need of mine out of these top 6 human needs. I love the feeling of giving love, being love, speaking from my heart and feeling deeply connected to others. For me, nothing else beats it.  

How to get more love and connection? Read my tips below to get more Love & Connection on this Valentine’s Day.

5. Growth

This is my second top 6 human need, expanding upon your knowledge, capabilities and learning. I’m definitely a dedicated life long learner and without this in my day, my brain just doesn’t get the dose of endorphins it loves!

Too much growth, can leave you overwhelmed or give you growing pains, don’t grow too fast that you end up falling over.

6. Contribution

A sense of service and purpose, helping and supporting others. Of course I love this one too, and when I’m growing and coming from a place of love and connection, is when I feel I give back the most. The happier and more loving I am, the more I give and get back!

What top 2 needs are most important to you in your life?

Top Tips for generating more Love & Connection in your life:

• Open your heart and speak from a place of love, compassion and understanding. What most people really want deep down under everything else… is to be loved (stay tuned for my upcoming post and more on this) and typically people are always trying to do their best. Aren’t you? It might not be your very best that you’ve ever done, but given the situation, environment and what’s going on, you are doing your best, because, ya know, if you could do better, you would.
• Be fully present - it’s the best gift you can give to someone. Throw multi-tasking or multi-thinking out the window! Make the person you’re with feel like they are the most important person in your world right now. And if they’re not and you don’t want to be talking to them, that will come across in your energy so you may as well quickly take your presence elsewhere…
• Really look at the person - I like to say, ‘see straight through them’ it can be eerie in one way but quite amazing to feel it from someone else at the same time. Like they really know you, they see through the barriers, the persona you put on and can feel your true and pure essence and love you all the more for it. To do this for others, start with being inquisitive, seek to learn about them, and not jump to judge or want them to be just like you. Be curious to their points of view, experiences in the world and unique selves, ask more questions and really listen. You never know, you just might learn something and that will help fill up your Growth Human Need.
• TIP - To really see and know someone straight away helps when you really know yourself. If you’re great at self awareness and dedicated to self mastery, you’ll be great at this. 
• Be vulnerable and your real self - if you have barriers up, if you’re trying to be someone you’re not, if you’re trying to be the person you think the other person wants you to be, will like or you will impress, you’re not connected. There will be a wall.
• Which brings me to Speak Your Truth - when you do this, it’s refreshing, the other person can tell and the best thing about this is it gives permission for the other person to do the same. Of course there is a way to do this that leaves both you and them feeling good. (more on communication strategies for truthful conversations coming here soon). If you open up and share who you are, it can give a sense of safety that the other person can too and then guess what – you’re connected on a whole new realm. 
• Take your walls down, stop being scared of what others might think, and BE YOURSELF.

I hope you enjoyed learning about the Top 6 Human Needs and that my tips help you generate more love and connection in your life.

If you need help getting deeply connected with others in your life, book yourself a free strategy session with me today where I’ll show you how.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Until then, Happy Valentine’s Day!
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Jacqueline Pigdon BSc, The LOVE MONDAYS Expert, is an Australian rowing champion, Wealth Dynamics, Talent Dynamics and Health Dynamics Performance Consultant, a spiritual life, career and business coach, speaker, author and award-winning entrepreneur!

M: +61 (0) 447728677

E: jacqueline@jinalife.com 

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 Jacqueline Pigdon, is an Australian rowing champion, international spiritual life and business coach, Wealth and Talent Dynamics consultant, author, speaker and award winning entrepreneur!

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A number one universal year – which means lots of new beginnings.

Now is the perfect time to set your positive intentions, aspirations and put your plans in place, to help make 2017 your best year yet!

If you need help doing this, contact me today!

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Jacqueline Pigdon, The LOVE MONDAYS Expert is an Australian rowing champion, a spiritual life & career coach, author and award winning entrepreneur! Beginning her career in corporate IT and as an elite sports person she knows firsthand how to achieve goals and make a successful and fulfilling career transition. Jacqueline has dedicated her life to helping other women all around the world do the same and create a career and life they love! 

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I recently filmed this video tip while I was in London and my inspiration came from one of my birthday cards a very good friend of mine gave me while I was there.

I believe the world is moving into a place where there will be less focus on material possessions and more focus on having memorable and exciting ‘experiences’.

As a location independent entrepreneur I travel a lot and therefore I travel light. I cannot afford to carry around, and personally have never been interested in having too much stuff.

I discovered that I fall into the category of being a ‘minimalist’ and I have to say there are plenty of positives about this situation.

• There are fewer things to manage therefore you free up time
• It can give you a greater sense of freedom by removing things around you that just weigh you down
• It’s easy to be and stay clutter free
• You can enjoy your environment more
• Break free of feeling stuck from dead energy piled up around you…

…and ultimately you can have more time and money to spend on fun adventures and experiences in your life with the people you love most!

Here is a great Ted Talk from Graham Hill where he addresses the question:

Can less stuff lead to more happiness?

http://www.ted.com/talks/graham_hill_less_stuff_more_happiness

If you need help to lighten up in life and onto a path where you have less stuff and more fun, request a coaching session with me today.

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I hope you enjoyed this video and until next time, I hope you have a fantastic day!
Live Your Best Life

Jacqueline Pigdon, The LOVE MONDAYS Expert is an Australian rowing champion, a spiritual life & career coach, author and award winning entrepreneur! Beginning her career in corporate IT and as an elite sports person she knows firsthand how to achieve goals and make a successful and fulfilling career transition. Jacqueline has dedicated her life to helping other women all around the world do the same and create a career and life they love!

T: +61447728677
E: jacqueline@jinalife.com
www.lovemondaysnow.com

To get a copy of Jacqueline’s BOOK ‘Love Mondays Now – 5 Steps to a career & life you love CLICK HERE!

We can be creatures of habit, we can easily get set in our ways and I fully support setting yourself up with a recipe for success  (routine or schedule) that works for you. ‘If it’s not broken then don’t fix it!’ 

However sometimes this can hold us back and we can fall victim to creating the same day as yesterday… 

When is this a problem? When we’re looking or waiting for something to change. 

Now if you’ve been trying to reach a goal or attract something significant into your life for a long time, you may well be thinking that something ‘big’ has to change.

But it doesn’t always have to be this way, sometimes the smallest of things can dramatically shift your situation.

~ YOUR SPECIAL INVITATION ~

New Path Exercise – I invite you to join me for a fun experiment (I love experiments that show us just how powerful our own thoughts, decisions and intentions are – more of these to come in my future videos). This excises consists of making simple changes in your routine to shake things up that create instant change.

CAN YOU RELATE TO THIS COMMON SCENARIO…

You get up at approximately the same time each day. you eat the same breakfast, you order the exact same coffee or morning drink at the same coffee shop, you drive along the same route to work, you have the same kind of day at work, you leave work at roughly the same time every day, you travel home on the exact same route, have the same types of conversations at home, watch the same TV shows or spend hours on social media before you go to bed at about the same time each night.

This can cause you to create the same day as yesterday… So if you’re not 100% happy with the days you are creating, or you’re looking for change, try this fun and easy exercise for 1 day to spice things up and take yourself on a new and different path. 

Get up at a different time, eat a different breakfast, order a different morning drink, travel on a new or different path to work, engage in conversations with new people and/or on different topics and travel on another route on your way home. Keep your eyes out for new and different things that surface on this new day path and share with me what showed up! You just might be surprised!

I hope you enjoyed my video I filmed on the beautiful Greek Island of Corfu and I look forward to bringing new videos your way soon!

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Jacqueline Pigdon, The LOVE MONDAYS Expert is an Australian rowing champion, a spiritual life & career coach, author and award winning entrepreneur! Beginning her career in corporate IT and as an elite sports person she knows firsthand how to achieve goals and make a successful and fulfilling career transition. Jacqueline has dedicated her life to helping other women all around the world do the same and create a career and life they love!

T: +61447728677
E: jacqueline@jinalife.com
www.lovemondaysnow.com

To get a copy of Jacqueline’s BOOK ‘Love Mondays Now – 5 Steps to a career & life you love CLICK HERE!